Sweden

The children never stood a chance

Last Friday - the 21st of January - I happened to stumble upon a piece on SVT, the national publicly-funded news station. There was a piece on how children are now living in joint-custody arrangements, whereby they spend half their time in one parent's home and the other half in the other parents. The piece featured 2 women who were living together in a 'commune' of sorts, with 2 bedrooms where one lived with her children when they were visiting. My understanding of the piece is that the women were not romantically involved. One of the women (presumably semi-famous) talked about how we need to accept new family situations, that it was not a destruction of the family but rather a creation of a new family model. In the piece was also a man who talked about how he and his new live-in woman have a similar arrangement, since they have children from another marriage.

After the piece there was a person who spoke - it was claimed she was a researcher and she had some statistics to share. It also turned out that she also lived in a similar situation, being a divorcee herself (or at the very least that she had children with a man with whom she used to live but does not live with any more).

As for the statistics themselves, there was nothing remarkable. She claimed that children who live with both biological parents tend to do better than children who live with only one biological parent all the time, and that children who live in joint-custody arrangements tend to do better than children who have access to only one parent, but not as well as children living with 2 parents. This is about as ringing an endorsement of the family as you will ever have on Swedish media. There was no discussion on marriage and whether children who are raised by parents united in marriage are better off than others. In Sweden, co-habitation and marriage are seen largely as the same thing - with marriage having the dubious distinction of being an arrangement with practically no benefits in law but many downsides.

If the piece had ended there I would not have bothered to comment on it. However, the researcher received a question though on why joint-custody rates vary so much between countries. Then she went on about how it all has to do with different views on women's equality with men, and views on whether women should be in the workplace. In other words, according to her, it all had to do with feminism, and women's 'progress' in the workplace and society at large.

I found that very odd since I would have assumed that as someone who researches on the well-being of children, her natural inclination would have been to say something akin to "different cultures have different views on how best to raise children", or "different countries have different views on the centrality of children in social policies". Make no mistake: What we are talking about primarily here is children - because it is they who have to be uprooted and displaced every now and then -, but according to her, even when we are discussion the well-being of children, they only come third in consideration after 'equality' in the households and 'equality' in the workplace.

Of course, for Sweden, the most important factor in joint-custody relationships is not men wanting to take care of their children, but rather the fact that in a joint-custody relationship the man does not have to pay alimony to the mother of his children - which is a rather big attraction given that most people don't want to offer material support to people they might have liked previously but now despise. This aspect did not feature in her analysis though, which is strange. Given the frequency with which unborn children are killed in Sweden, and given the fact that many people have children with multiple partners while clearly not intending to commit to them, it is fair to say that Swedes are generally not the most child-loving or child-centrered people, so a good researcher might be curious to explain why men in such a  society choose joint-custody solutions. Maybe she has, but it didn't show. I was left with the impression that her research was by and large driven by a desire to rationalise her own divorce and subsequent lifestyle choices.

In the final analysis though, it is plain to see that feminism and leftism are the lenses through which all political discourse takes place in Sweden. It would be difficult otherwise to explain how a piece which is clearly about children ends up being an analysis of women's 'progress' in society.

Elections bring out the true colours of a country

This is an election year in Sweden, which has a 4-year election cycle. I do not follow domestic politics so much, not because it does not affect me but for the most part because it seems rather pointless. What we have is in essence a multi-party one-party state in which discussion about fundamentals never takes place. Sure, the parties have minor differences as to how the aims can be achieved, and the so-called right favour marginally lower taxes than the left, but by any objective reading all the major parties in Sweden are leftist of one form or another - believing as they do in the all-mighty state.

Elections normally bring out the true colours of a country, because it brings to the fore what the politicians regard as the selling points to the normal person in the street. So it is even in Sweden, although given that Swedish people are generally very reticent about voicing any divergent opinion, it is difficult to say whether the issues which are valued by politicians are actually the issues which the normal Swedish person values. By and large the politicians have a very easy time in Sweden because regardless of how unpopular a bill might be, it is very rare for a public outcry. The fact that most of the time the parties seem to be on the same side - and not co-incidentally this happens to be the side supported by media - tends to make Sweden a very governable place for the politicians.

There is one major party which stands out in Sweden and that is "Sverigedemokraterna" - the "Swedish democrats", directly translated. This too is a statist party, but at least when they speak they speak like normal people, as though they live on this particular planet in this particular galaxy and not on some parallel galaxy where we can pretend that crime has no victims and that we can obliterate centuries of culture through multiculturalism and come out the other side better than we were before. (I am not hereby in any way shape or form taking a stance as to whether the Swedish culture is better than a certain undefined multi-culture, merely stating that multiculturalism is an experiment doomed to failure.) This party gets predictably bad press and is frequently described as far-right, but it is in fact a leftist party for nationalists. For some reason, in Sweden, far right is supposed to be bad, which is why the media attaches that label to anyone who dislikes forcing multiculturalism down everybody's throats by way of leftism.

There is also a party started last month called "Kristna Värdepartiet" - "the Christian values party", directly translated. This party seems quite different, and in its party program it states taht it wants to recude teh influence of the state. It also wants to make the killing of the unborn illegal. On top of that, it wants to allow home-schooling (which is illegal in practice). Of all the parties I have come across in Sweden, this is as non-leftist as it gets, and can even be described as 'conservative' - that most hated of words in this country. I shall try as much as I can to report on how this party is reported.

As I wrote in my introduction, I don't follow domestic Swedish politics too much. However, during election years I do like to follow the different election strategies and keep tabs on what kind of marketing the parties are doing for themselves. So last time, for instance, we had the greens telling us that they wanted to abolish the 'traditional family' (an intrinsic evil if ever there was one), whereas the Swedish democrats rode on a platform of trying to promote it - among other things by providing free counselling to couples who are in divorce proceedings. That to me was the most striking difference of the last election, and the ability of the Swedish democrats to speak as though they value them, whereas many of the other parties see people as variables in a social experiment. That being written, the Swedish democrats did not have a very coherent platform - running as they did on the idea that Islam is the greatest threat to Sweden (which it might well be although I disagree with that assessment) since Nazism. The reason this is incoherent is because Nazism was not a threat to Sweden in any way and Sweden was in many ways a collarator and admirer of  Nazism. However, we are taught to associate Nazism with evil (without necessarily being taught what was evil about it philosophically), and by associating Islam with Nazism they aimed at triggering a reflexive reaction from the voters. I am not sure it succeeded, but they did nonetheless make it to parliament for the first time and they are now the third biggest party (although in my opinion this has very little to do with that particular tactic).

This year I am to write about some of the more outrageous political ideas that will be floated about during the current election cycle. Unfortunately, I do admit that I might already be immunised against many of them, and that some of the ideas which seem outrageous to outsiders will simply go unnoticed. Nonetheless, I am pretty sure there will be plenty of examples to prove just how juvenile political discourse in Sweden happens to be.

Anybody who follows debates on life and family will know that Sweden is at the forefront of the efforts against both. Make no mistake however: Sweden is not ground zero in the culture of death. That particularly dubious honour (at least in Europe) would have to go to Belgium which seems to be in a one-horse race towards becoming the most decadent society yet known to man. Many of the ideas floated around casually are nowhere near the horizon in Sweden - and the idea of euthanasia is not one which politicians of any stripe have...

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